Cancelled Meetings
They keep cancelling plans to meet. How worried should I be?
One cancelled trip can happen to anyone. A repeating pattern deserves a closer look, especially when every cancellation creates a new emergency or money request.
Start with the timeline, not the excuse.
Write down every planned meeting, the date it was supposed to happen, when it was cancelled, the reason given, and what happened next. The pattern is often easier to see on one page than inside months of messages.
Ask whether the explanation can be checked.
Travel disruptions, work problems, family emergencies, illness, visa issues, and money problems can all be real. The important question is whether the explanation stays consistent and whether basic facts can be confirmed without sending money.
Pay attention to what happens after the cancellation.
- Is a new date actually set?
- Does the person take practical steps toward the next meeting?
- Does the reason change later?
- Does the cancellation lead to a request for tickets, fees, medical money, legal money, or another payment?
- Do questions get answered directly?
Official agencies specifically warn about repeated excuses.
The FBI warns that romance scammers often promise to meet and then repeatedly find reasons they cannot. The FTC gives similar guidance and says repeated cancelled plans deserve attention.
What a cancellation does not prove
A cancelled meeting does not prove deception. Several cancelled meetings do not automatically prove it either. But repeated cancellations combined with changing stories, money requests, secrecy, or pressure create a much stronger reason to stop and verify.